Wanting to know how to get a guy to like you is something ladies have been wondering since the beginning of time, but it isn’t all that complicated.
Guys may be more complicated than we give them credit for, but getting a guy to like you isn’t as hard as you might think.
You don’t have to follow rules from weird guys online who say that guys like this or that. If you want a guy to like you, it’s because you like him. You want him to like you, not some version of you.
If you want a guy to like you, it shouldn’t be from something made up or orchestrated. If you do that, which has been done, it won’t last. And if they don’t like whatever face you put on, you will never know if he actually would’ve liked the real you.
With that being said, there is plenty you can do to catch his attention and get him to see you differently.
You can’t force him to like you, but you can get a guy to take notice so that he has the chance to like you.
Before you get a guy to like you – The things to keep in mind
I have plenty of really good ways for you to catch a guy’s attention and hopefully get him to like you, but before we go there let’s prepare.
If you are trying to get a guy to like you, you need to remain realistic. Just because you put in the effort doesn’t always mean it will work.
This is the same advice I’d give a guy who wanted a girl to like him; don’t push. If he doesn’t like you, he doesn’t like you. Trying too hard and convincing him to like you is not worth it. You don’t want to have to argue your way into his heart.
Your reason for existence isn’t to please or win over a guy
Sometimes, it just doesn’t happen. And remember it is okay for him not to like you. I know it may suck but not everyone will like you just as you won’t like every guy. It is normal and okay.
There is nothing wrong with you, you just aren’t a match. Remember that getting a guy to like you won’t fulfill you. It won’t complete you. Getting a boyfriend shouldn’t be your only goal.
You are amazing as you are, yes, even single. Just because he doesn’t like you doesn’t say anything about you.
Try to remember this. I know in the moment the rejection takes over and your ego takes a big hit, but you will find someone and they will like you, probably without you having to try so hard.
So, yes, I can help you learn how to get a guy to like you but remember you don’t need him to.
How to get a guy to like you
Getting a guy to like you isn’t science, but it does require some trial and error. Not every guy is the same so these things will work differently for every guy.
It also helps if you know him, so you get to make these things more personalized to him. If you don’t know him and want him to like you, get to know him. You might change your mind.
#1 Ask about him. Ask him questions. Even people who are private and shy like to talk about themselves. Ask him what he did over the weekend, what he’s binging, and more. Wanting to get to know him shows your interest and will make him comfortable talking to you.
#2 Compliment him. This is give-in but don’t just tell him he’s handsome, be more specific. Compliment him about things you’ve noticed more than his shirt. Compliment his ability, his talent, his positive attitude, etc.
He’ll appreciate you complimenting him on something important and deeper than looks.
#3 Don’t be perfect. Don’t try to act as if you’re perfect. You don’t need to act like you don’t get pimples or have bad hair days. Trying too hard to be sure you look amazing will only stress you out.
Also, don’t act like you have it all together. He will see through the facade, and if he doesn’t, you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself.
#4 Touch him. I am not about touching without consent, so keep it G-rated. Lightly tap him when he makes you laugh or fix his lapel. Don’t be abrupt or make him uncomfortable, but a gentle touch, even something entirely platonic and acceptable, can ignite intimacy.
#5 Smile. Smiles are contagious. When you smile, he smiles. When you smile, you feel better. If he smiles around you because you smile around him, he will associate you with happy feelings.
#6 Focus on yourself. Don’t let getting him to like you occupy your time. That will be completely transparent and isn’t healthy. Remember you have a full life outside this guy. Making him like you should not take over. Keep doing you. He will be more attracted to someone who is fulfilled in their life than someone desperate for his attention.
#7 Make eye contact. Eye contact is scientifically proven to enhance a connection. Try not to look down when you talk to him. This shows insecurity. Instead, make eye contact. This shows your engagement and links you two without even talking. [Read: Prolonged eye contact when flirting – What it means and how to do it right]
#8 Ask for his help. Guys like to be needed. If you ask for his help with something like fixing the printer at work, to building a bookshelf, or hanging a mirror, he will like the feeling he gets from that. When he helps you, he will feel appreciated and remember you giving him that feeling.
#9 Remember what he shares. Don’t just ask him about himself so that he likes you. Ask him because you really want to know. And pay attention when he shares. If he mentions he has a pet, follow-up. If he said something about visiting his parents, ask about them. He will appreciate your attention.
#10 Say it when you disagree. you don’t have to be agreeable and docile to get a guy to like you. Guys or I should say, decent guys, want someone who has their own thoughts and opinions. Share those. Whether it is about politics or a TV show’s plot, having a discussion where you don’t agree brings you closer than you’d think.
#11 Be yourself. I know you hear this a lot, but it is so true. Don’t try to act funnier than you are or be more sophisticated than you are. Be who you are. Not only will you feel more comfortable which will lead to him feeling more comfortable, but if it works out, things will feel more natural.
#12 Remember you are awesome without him. Your confidence is key. He will be able to tell if you are uncomfortable in your skin. If you are relying on his affections to fulfill you, instead of adding his affections to your own it will be clear. Remember what you are capable of, and focus on that when you’re with him.
#13 Tease him. Teasing is a great way to flirt. I’ve been doing it forever. Don’t hit below the belt but a gentle tease about his favorite sports team, TV show, or even his choice of footwear will work. Keep it light as to not offend him, but a little head-to-head will spark something.
#14 Ask about his passions. When a guy talks about what he is passionate about, he is excited. When you ask about those things and show genuine interest, it will please him. He will see that you are someone that supports what makes him happy.
#15 Say his name. I know this seems silly but using his name when you’re talking to him is sure to catch his attention. It will boost his ego and then enhance that feeling when you’re around.
#16 Enjoy your life. People are drawn to people that make them happy. If you are miserable and complaining all the time, he may pull away. If you are enjoying your life, actually enjoying it, not just posting happy selfies online, he will pick up on that energy.
#17 Share your dreams. Don’t just let him talk about himself, talk about your passions and dreams too. Let him see what makes you tick. Let him get to know you. Let yourself be vulnerable. Letting him see a little more of you will give him insight into who you are beyond flirting.
#18 Take your time. Don’t rush it. Getting a guy to like you isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. Enjoy the process. Actually, get to know him while trying to gain his affections.
#19 Look your best. As much as looks shouldn’t reign supreme, they are important. But, it isn’t about showing cleavage or wearing tight clothes. It is about looking how you feel most comfortable. If you dress and look the way that makes you feel your best, you will emit a more positive and confident vibe.
#20 Enjoy the moment. Don’t just think about getting him to like you or what it would be like to have him ask you out. Actually enjoy getting to know him. Have fun with him. Try to be in the moment instead of focusing on what might happen later.
#21 Don’t be afraid to get serious. You don’t have to play it safe by talking TV and movies. Talk to him about your family. Share your history. Opening up about the things that make you, you, and really being vulnerable is what shows someone how you handle life.
#22 Laugh. Don’t forget to laugh. Make jokes, laugh at his *if they’re funny*. You can be serious but you don’t have to take yourself so seriously.
#23 Let him be. Give him space. You may hope he’ll be your boyfriend but he isn’t right now and that is okay. Don’t constantly text him or talk to him. Live your life. Let him come to you once in a while. If you are constantly available, it will seem like you have no other priorities or interests.
#24 Be honest. Tell him the truth. Tell him you don’t like this or that. Tell him you’re recently out of a relationship or that your dream is to be a mother or to travel. Be honest about stuff that seems like too much, because if it’s not, it is what will make him like you.
#25 Tell him you like him. If you aren’t getting anywhere, he could be a slow starter but if not, tell him you’re interested. That could be the push he needed to make a move.
#26 Be open to options. Don’t let yourself get used to the idea that he will like you. Remain open to other options. You don’t have dibs on him nor he, you. Realize there are other guys out there and getting him to like you isn’t the only option.
Learning how to get a guy to like you is not hard, but it does take patience. If you’re willing to wait a while this could be your method, but don’t wait too long. You may end up overlooking another guy that’s even better!