A dating advice question I get asked a lot by women is “Mark, How do I tell the guy I like that I’m not going to have sex with him? I don’t want to push him away (I do like him!) I just want to know how to communicate my standards that – if sex happens, it’s not going to happen quite yet?”
Giving dating advice to women on how to communicate to a guy you’re not going to have sex with him is one question I absolutely LOVE addressing as a dating and relationships coach!
Learning how to apply your boundaries and communicate both your INTEREST and your STANDARDS at the same time is one of the trickiest things to do as a woman – however, once you know how, you’ll be able to communicate confidently to men that you’re not going to sleep with them (at least… yet!) and have them respecting you and wanting you even more than they did before! This truly is one of my favorite skills to teach in dating. It’s extremely rewarding being able to help a woman – for the first time – put her foot down and communicate her standards effectively in a playful and endearing way that keeps (and even strengthens!) the interest of the guy she likes.
In this dating advice video from Make Him Yours, I (Mark Rosenfeld, dating and relationship coach) am showing you exactly what you need to do if he’s pushing for sex and you’re not quite ready yet… I’ve even got Jermia back with me to demonstrate EXACTLY what I’m talking about so you can see FIRST HAND both the RIGHT and the WRONG ways to go about communicating your standards (as they relate to sex) to a guy you like. Jermia also demonstrates what NOT to do when it comes to communicating to a guy that you’re not going to sleep with him, including what women do that makes them seem ‘bitchy’ as well as what they do that makes them appear ‘weak’.
When a woman comes to me asking “How do I tell him I’m not going to have sex with him yet?” my first thought is “What an awesome woman! She’s clearly aware that learning how to uphold and communicate her standards effectively is critically important to getting and keeping the respect of the man she desires. Only once she has his respect will a man consider her as ‘girlfriend material’ so it’s important she gets this right to keep their potential relationship moving in the right direction.
After watching this video on “How to tell him you’re not going to have sex with him”, never again will you find yourself wondering how to communicate your standards without coming off WEAK or BITCHY to the guy who wants to sleep with you! Instead, you’ll be able to relax in the knowledge that you’ll know exactly what you need to do to let him know that you’re not going to sleep with him (at least… yet!) while having his attraction for you INCREASE in the process!